a different kind of love.

it seems like the animal instincts that we humans possess has not quite been suppressed. spring comes and everyone seems to float on clouds, smelling of floral fragrances (and musky ones too!). love is in the air, and is intoxicating everyone who inhales even a whiff of this captivating Spring Aroma.

and as usual, yours truly would take a step back and analyze. examine with scrutiny the mechanics, setbacks and wonders of such an occurence. what is happening??? every year i see this, and every year the voices inside resound with bewilderment. this time, i’m gonna blog it out. perhaps then i’ll reason something to the satisfaction of my mind.

truly pheromones? i don’t think so. However, it does seem that way for the fact, it happens only during seasons, and always in groups of them, much like the females in heat during Spring.

People rapidly getting "twitter-pated", and almost immediately relationships forged. The couple floats through space and time, and eventually become inseparable. Unlike animals, we have the intellect to sustain relationships, and also move to a new one should the current be deemed inappropriate. Therefore, the quality of relationships should not be compared to that of animals, even if some species have only one mate for their whole lives. The level we belong to is 4 dimensional, inclusive of emotions, spirituality and intellect.

What shall we say then? That because we are at a higher level, that automatically our choices and the relationships we have are the right ones?

There are three types of relationships, depending on the way of relation to one another. Of course, this piece of wisdom is not authentically mine. It is something i learnt during Counselling. The first type is the Codependent type. It’s probably how most relationships start off nowadays. Being in love is synonomous with "can’t live without you" and "you are the air i breathe". The distance from carpark to building is just closer if we held hands. Life only seems complete with a "good morning call" and a "sweet dreams call". But many are unaware of its bad side, which is the inability to stand on your own feet. Making decisions become a chore, since you only live for the other, and he/she lives for you. Whatever your partner wants, you go all out to satisfy, without thinking about yourself. After all, you think, what is life without him/her?

The other extreme of course, is equally as devastating. the Independent lot. It hardly makes a difference being together or not. No decision is made with discussion and compromise, and there is hardly public hints of affection. They probably claim that they’ve been in the relationship for so long, but it hardly can be called that.

What we strive and hope for instead, is an Interdependent relationship. Where bondaries are kept and respected, and people are comfortable with the couple as much as the couple are with each other. They are free to do whatever, but always take into consideration their partner. Ideal, yet almost unattainable. Let’s face it, we all have baggage with us. Broken dreams, past relationships, relating with the other gender… Until and unless, we deal with them and let them go, we have high chances of being in the extreme. Like i always say, it’s all about the balance. A thin thread holding everything in place.

After all, Life is not all black and white. It’s just different shades of gray…

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